Malignant narcissists are everywhere – in politics, the arts, medicine, Hollywood, teaching, business, law enforcement, the clergy, and the assembly line. The smart ones make great climbers.
The typical brutal dictator, like Nero, Saddam Hussein, Josef Stalin — is or was a malignant narcissist. (They acted out how grand they were by trampling people by the millions.) But so is the typical street con artist, often described by law enforcement officials as the most sadistic of criminals in the art of mental cruelty. Pedophile priests are usually diagnosed as malignant narcissists. Serial bullies, serial adulterers, gold-diggers, love thieves.
Character Assassin is every Narcissist’s middle name.
In fact, all psychopaths are malignant narcissists, but whether all malignant narcissists are psychopaths is still being debated.
As you can see from that list, even those who cross the legal line into physical or sexual violence are getting their kicks mainly out of mental cruelty.
In short, malignant narcissists are predators who hunt easy prey to plunder them in one way or another, mainly for ego gratification. Because they have to feel greater than you, they are competing with you for every bit of it. Any you get, they view as rightly belonging to them. So, they gotta take it away.
Your self respect. Your good name. Your success.
This is the mentality that stands out so glaringly in the BULLY from the gutter, they gotta tear you down off that pedestal — and treat you like dirt — to prove they’re better than you.
That ain’t natural. It ain’t natural to hate innocence. It ain’t natural to attack people who are no threat to you and have done you no harm. It ain’t natural to treat the other members of one’s own species as prey. But psychopaths and malignant narcissists do.
Most of them get their jollies without leaving visible bite marks in their victims. Most never push the envelope of risk-taking to the point of violent crime. Instead they drive lovers, children, employees, schoolmates all the way to suicide through mental cruelty calculated to deliver sadistic emotional and psychological abuse. They cross the line into physical or sexual violence only when they think they can get away with it and when safer forms of treating people like dirt no longer deliver the high they are addicted to.
Whether by choice or not, psychopaths and malignant narcissists are able to do this because they have no human feeling whatsoever for anyone. Except themselves: they have very, very tender feelings for themselves. But none for anyone else, not even their own children. They view human beings as objects, tools, to exploit for their gratification, to perfect that image of theirs that they are so obsessed with.
So, for example, if telling people that you beat your wife makes a malignant narcissist look better than you, he will do so without a second thought or pang of conscience. What’s it to him if that damages you and makes a social outcast of you?
For, like a child of three, he doesn’t relate to other people: he treats you like a screw driver there for him to use or abuse for his sake. He disregards the consequences to you, because he refuses to grow up and know that there is a thinking, feeling person inside other people and that they exist for their own sakes, not his. So your rights and feelings and welfare are no of consideration to him whatsoever. He’ll break you just lightly as he’d stomp an ant.
Never forget that for a moment. Forgetting it is as dangerous as walking into a hungry tiger’s cage forgetting that he is predator.
Narcissists and psychopaths often try to hide this brutal inhumanity and total lack of empathy by mimicking human emotions, often melodramatically. They are extremely sneaky and manipulative, mainly because they’ve been practicing these arts nonstop from about the age of six.
Unless they are so powerful they needn’t hide what they are, they go to great lengths to portray themselves as the very opposite of what they are. They are pathological liars who tell bizarre lies. They often react to things in a bizarre way that makes you pinch yourself. Yet despite these warning signs that there is something wrong with them, and despite the mental maturity level of a little child before the Age of Reason, they almost always pass for normal.
One-to-three in every 20 people you meet are malignant narcissists. If they sucker you into getting too close and then rip your guts out, it isn’t because of anything you did or anything about you they don’t like: it’s just because you were there and vulnerable (unable to defend yourself).